In this advertisement, once again, nonverbal communication is used to convey a message between a father and a son.
In this video, the director made use of close up shots to focus on the emotions of the son. Throughout the movie, they made use of kinetics, especially affect displays, to illustrate the emotions of the actors in the show. From the beginning of the clip, the son was already very upset with his father, for all that his dad had done to him. He used harsh words such as ‘neglected’, ‘rejected’ and ‘despised’ to put down his father and to make his father guilty. These words complemented the use of non-verbal communication, to emphasize on his sadness and hatred towards his father.
The proximity between the father and son also indicated that there is a gap between them. They do not enjoy an intimate relationship like most parents and child. Instead, based on estimation, their distance is more of a social distance. This clearly shows that the father and son are very distant in terms of relationship. One of the reasons accounting for the distance is the hatred that the son feels towards his father. This has caused them to drift apart. Despite all these challenges, the son ultimately is able to break free from his comfort zone and to forgive his dad, even though he knew that it was his dad who had killed his mother. This clearly explains the title “Let’s Forgive”.
This video also clearly portrays the relationship management process. The conflict resolution method used is the functional method where a new relationship is built between the father and the son. Despite knowing that his father has killed his mother, the son is still able to let go of the past and forgive his father for his wrongdoings.
This is a very touching video, because it portrays that in life, we are all bound to make mistakes, be it whether we are a child, a son, a student, a parent, a teacher or even a president. We are only human. The most important thing is to be able to learn from our own mistakes and at the same time, seek forgiveness from our loved ones. Only when there is forgiveness, can we then be able to maintain strongly bonded, healthy relationships.
As quoted in the video:
When deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive... forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future...
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Let's Forgive
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What a powerful message it delivered. Even there were no words spoken.
ReplyDeletenon-verbal communication is very important in our daily lives. we often use it unknowingly through our body language. It is like a natural reflex of our emotions. this is what i feel.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more on the proximity part. The son could have sat down right in front of the father but chose not to. Really accentuates the gap that they had and what they had to overcome.
ReplyDeleteit shows that how hard and brave to forgive someone who has done the worst thing to you, i don't think i can do this, to be honest..
ReplyDeleteGestures, facial expressions can bring forth communication as well. This is what I saw from this video...and the gestures and facial expressions tell us more than what words/speeches did.
ReplyDeleteWe make mistakes in life, maybe even too many to list. Yet more often than not, we are forgiven so readily that we take the love for granted.
ReplyDeleteThis, is exactly why only when our folly results in dire consequences that challenged the magnanimity of our love ones will we receive that wake up call, the need for us to change, the true realisation of our mistakes, the experience of real pain.
I'm not sure how it really feels like to forgive, but I imagine it as a release of burden that you have been carrying on your shoulders for years.
I do, however, understand the little hope that one clings to, seeking for forgiveness. It is the agonizing moment when whatever you do, see or hear reminds you harshly of the hurt you've caused on your love ones. You see the hunching back, the greying strands, touch the wrinkling skin and hear the heavy sighs. Nothing has to be done, to deepen the pain.
You would almost literally see a knife stabbed in the heart, witness the blood drip and yet helplessly watch as there's nothing you can do to ease the pain, or at least not right within that one moment.
Forgiveness requires time. A long time. You may try real hard to repent, but yet your efforts may not be reciprocated. You may want to care, but yet the love is not appreciated. You may have done nothing wrong since then, but yet misunderstandings still arise.
Forgiveness is not just about how much sincerity and determination you put in to change, to prove, to repay. It is also about how much your love ones are willing to forget, to let go, to pick up the beautiful memories. Trust takes a lifetime to build, a second to destroy. The process of reconstruction requires a form of 'enlightenment' of both parties; and is hence one of the greatest challenge in life indeed.
I think that this video is a good way to show that as long as messages(be it verbal or non verbal) are delivered to the decoder/receiver sincerely, the message will be sent across successfully, and received as the sender wanted it to be.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with your last statement, which is taken form the video, that "forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future".
I do believe that hatred will eventually lead to regret, which I feel is the worst feeling that one can have, because time will not wait. The clock just ticks away, and doesnt wait for anyone, anything at all.
indeed, this advertisement makes use of pathos to capture the attention of viewers. by using dark background, with very sad emotions, the sender is able to instill a feeling of sadness in the viewer. this would help to emphasize on the feeling of hatred that the son has for his father. and at the end of the video, when the son says that he is willing to forgive his dad, it contrasts with the negative atmosphere that the sender has built within us. this helps to bring out the message even clearer to the receiver.
ReplyDelete-j
Wonderful depiction of forgiveness. The deafening silence. Wonderful.
ReplyDeletethe power of silence
ReplyDeleteSilence can mean nothing; and yet, silence can mean everything
ReplyDeletehong yik
This video clearly shows that in order to forgive, it does not really matter how much is being said. Instead, sincerity is something which flows from our hearts and it is only reflective nonverbally. Thus, it is not about how much we say/do in our life that matters, but it is how sincere and honest and truthful are we in wanting to do all these.
ReplyDeleteValerie
I really like this video. Like all the earlier comments, I feel that this touching video really made extensive use of 'pathos' to commune the meaning to us.
ReplyDeleteIt made use of everything that we could have used in communication with the exception of speech, which I feel is the most overused form of communication. It is heartening to see that effective communication can also be achieved without having to rely on speech.
Thanks for sharing the video, it's wonderful.
This video clearly shows that forgiveness is not all about talking, but it is something which flows out from the heart. Thus, as portrait in this video, nothing needs to be said, all it takes is some nonverbal cues from the son, for the father to know that his son is sincere about forgiving him.
ReplyDeleteThe close up shots clearly shows the facial expression of the two characters. This is crucial in portraying them as being very sincere individuals. The father is very sincere in seeking for forgiveness and the son is very sincere in forgiving his father.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good portrayal of bridging a broken relationship!